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Posted on December 24, 2012, 6:59 pm, F spotting M (Around Campus). 15 comments.

I saw you... Boy. I don't know if I like you as a friend, or more. You and i have a lot in common and it seems to me that you enjoy talking to me. I hope that's the case, because I like to talk to you too. What complicates things even more is that I have a boyfriend. Are these feelings bad? I'm so confused. But I would like to see you again soon, I look forward to more conversations with you after break.

  1. I don't think it is good to have these feelings, because 1.) it hurts your boyfriend eventually, and 2.) it teaches boys to go after girls with boyfriends. If your boyfriend is not satisfying you, you should end things, whether you have another boy in mind or not. It is better for everyone that way. I don't mean to be judgy, or make you feel bad, but thats just my opinion.

  2. Yeah seriously, OP, stop it. (Really, though.) If you want to bang the other guy, drop your bf first. It'll hurt him less this way.

  3. Are you two kidding me? This is completely normal. People you don't know well can seem attractive (sometimes more attractive than your significant other) because you haven't had time to find their faults.

    Being in a relationship, especially a long-term one, doesn't mean you become blind to other people. It means that you care about someone enough to stay with them, even after weighing all other options. You can be completely satisfied with your relationship but still be intrigued by someone new.

    Unless the OP's boyfriend is so controlling/doubtful of their relationship's strength that he can't trust her to talk to other guys, this should be a non-issue with him. It doesn't "teach boys to go after girls with boyfriends," that is beyond ridiculous and irrelevant. If someone won't respect a pointed "I have a boyfriend" in response to advances, the problem is being pushy and not listening to other people, not people having normal desires.

  4. == 3
    Being in a monogamous relationship doesn't remove your attraction to other people. You might want to talk to your boyfriend about it, but maybe he's the jealous type and that would just unnecessarily worry him. I suspect its slightly unhealthy if you're not able to talk honestly with your SO about your emotions like that, but I don't really understand jealousy that well anyway.

    It's also perfectly fine to have friends whom you're attracted to but don't date. Given the number of attractive people at MIT, its kinda unfortunate if you don't.

  5. 3,4 did you switch genders or

  6. OP is heartless. If you're having these thoughts break up with your bf. Disgusting.

  7. Is OP from MIT?

  8. Communicate. Talk to people, tell the truth, and figures things out. Far too many bad things happen because people keep too many secrets. The truth can be hard, but I believe it's always better to have it in the open. It'll almost always come out eventually, so it's much better to handle it with a cool head in a controlled environment.

  9. I'll go for the middle ground. 3 and 4 are right in that it's normal to have feelings like that, but it also could get out of hand if you're not careful. Be cautious, pay attention to what your feelings are telling you, and don't kid yourself.

  10. how confused are you? is it simply you're a good friend? or is there something more that makes you question whether you should be dating your bf?

  11. @4



  12. tell me more about this so-called "boy"

  13. Oh my.

  14. I saw you too... Lady. And I do indeed enjoy talking to you. Well, at least I hope it was you, as this post is vague enough that it could be almost anyone. I'll be praying, though, that it was meant for me :)

  15. OP here.

    i havent really been checking this, but I will clarify some things.

    yes, i am intrigued by this boy, but maybe its because we just have a lot in common. i feel like i should get to know him more before i make the rash decision, i guess.

    but then again, after spending break with my boyfriend, I now remember why i chose to stay with him.